We neither a see a woman gutted when a man ditches her, nor hear of incidents of women throwing acid at men. In my opinion, only men are created with a void, they long for a woman to complete them.
I read a book titled “Shiva aur Buddha” about the contrasting history of Buddha and Shiva, 10 years back and recently read a write up of Vikram Bhattacharya circulated in Facebook which struck a similar chord. The write-up goes like this.
He left her in the middle of the night, the night their son was born. When she heard the news, she was devastated.
Yet, she did not complain but her life lost all meaning. The only reason for her to live now was her son. She wanted him to grow up to be a man that the world would look up to.
Her friends and relatives came around and asked her to forget about the man who had left her and start life again.
They asked her to marry again but she refused. She was young & beautiful & suitors queued up outside her door, but she refused each one of them.
Then one fine day he came back!
He stood in front of her and she could hardly remember him as the man who had left her. “They call you the Buddha now?” she asked him gently.
“I hear they do,” he answered in a calm fashion.
“What does it mean?” she further inquired.
“I think it means the enlightened one, a knower,” he informed.
She smiled and then a silence.
“I suppose we have both learned something. Your lessons Oh Buddha, will make the world richer in spirit, but my lesson will unfortunately remain largely unknown.”
she reflected deeply….
“And what lesson is that? ”
The Buddha probed.
Her eyes sparkled with unshed tears, “That a courageous woman does not need anyone to complete her.
SHE IS COMPLETE ON HER OWN”
In today’s world we have many Yashodharas who are living around us; taking care of everything right from work, business, family, kids, chores, finances and themselves too. Despite this if her husband abandoned her one day, she would just say ‘Now I have one less thing to worry about!’ However, many of such women go unappreciated by us. We don’t need the fake western feminism asking for stupid equality (women are better) nor the middle eastern hijab (today being peddled as female empowerment). All we need to do is look around and appreciate those women around us for their strength and courage.
From my grandmother, to my aunt, my cousin, to my wife. I am fortunate to be around women who are extremely courageous and independent. If you know of someone like that tag them and let them know how much you appreciate them.